In love relationships, the secret to success is finding the right person. Why is that so important?
Being in love with someone is a complex relationship. It is not a feeling. It is a relationship that makes you both want to be the best people you can be. It is a relationship in which you accept each other as you are without reservation, and in which both of you respect and understand each other even when you disagree. It involves intimacy, fascination, and enjoying each other’s company. It means acting in each other’s best interest and being prepared to give your utmost for each other. It means feeling secure enough about yourselves to not be threatened when your partner does not agree with you. It means knowing and understanding each other well enough to know how each other thinks, how each other reacts to things, and what things are important to each other. It means trusting each other with your lives, your children, and your dreams. Finally, it means that you permanently commit to each other.
Finding a person with whom you can have the kind of relationship described above is not an easy task. You can see that being in love with someone is not just about having feelings for him or her. Being in love is the most complex role you will ever have. Finding someone who understands and is competent enough to handle the job is essential, and those sorts of people do not come along every day. Getting clear on the qualities you value in an intimate relationship is a start.